Hello Lisa! Why yes, you can definitely use the Law of Attraction to attract "the perfect guy", however, the use of the term "perfect" is relative. What I believe you are expressing is a desire to manifest the person who feels good to you. The best way to "use" the Law of Attraction to manifest your desired mate is to visualize and "feel" him into existence. Feel how you want to feel when he is in your presence. This is the best way in which to manifest.
Each person is creating their own reality and inasmuch as there is a vibrational match to the "specific person" that you wish to manifest into your reality, will be the extent to which you have a relationship with them. Meaning if that specific person is in alignment with becoming a mate with you, then it shall happen. You cannot force it to happen. What will happen though if you are not a vibrational match with your specific person, is that you will manifest someone else of a similar vibration. They may even look the same and may even have some of the same emotional similarities, but they will not, of course, be that specific person.
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Lisa L. said:
Hi, this is to anyone out there. How can I use Law of Attraction to attract the perfect guy? And can I use it to attract a specific person?
First I want to just let you know that the way you use the law of attraction is for you. You cannot make someone fall in love with you if they strongly don't want that.
Here's what I mean by that. Jane loves John and wants him to love her, but John doesn't really even notice her. Jane could quite possibly use the law of attraction to attract John's love if he is open to that.
Another different example: Jane loves John and wants him to love her. John really doesn't like Jane at all and is in love with Emma. In this case, it is unlikely that the law of attraction would work for Jane.
I've stated this before and got criticised but let me give you a third example. Jane, Emma, Louise, Mary, Amanda... All love John and want him to fall in love with them and get married and be faithful. All of these ladies use the law of attraction. Can you see what I mean? It's not going to happen for each of them is it?
Here's what I suggest.
Start off by getting really clear about the way you want to FEEL in this relationship, how you want to be treated, what kind of person he is, characteristics, perhaps
what he looks like, things he likes...
What would you spend time doing together...
As you go about your life, imagine him in your life.
If there is a specific person you would like to attract, then you can of course imagine him with you.
Focus on your feelings and try to get the same feeling that you imagine you'll have once he is with you.
Hope this helps.
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Hi Lisa. First off, let me say that both Wendy and Shangela gave you excellent advice. I use to be in love with my best friend for fifteen years and probably would have done just about anything to have him. The part that I failed to bring into my own awareness is that attracting someone like this who isn't already "wanting me" wa doing myself QUITE an injustice. Start by WALKING AWAY from any person or relationship that does not FEEL that it is in your highest good. In oher words, don't settle, EVER. Hold yourself to the HIGHEST. I couldn't exactly ever verbalize, even mentally to myself, what I wanted in a man. You hear so many people say "Spirit knows best," but sometimes that can be hard to believe. I knew on a SUBCONSCIOUS level what I wanted though, we all do! And so do you. Now, you can try and attract a specific person. But, what if you get to be with this person and you aren't happy? Or, this person is not treating you as you KNOW you deserve to be treated, or something feels lacking? Then what? This is why I always had trouble writing a list of qualities or things I wanted in a partner. It never felt right. When I stopped looking at all the closed doors, men who didn't want to be with me, and stopped settling. This is when REAL change began in my life. I came to ACCEPT the fact that I may never find my soulmate or have the life I dreamed that I wanted. Oddly enough, as soon as I was OK with not having it, I got IT ALL....and THEN SOME! So, when you hear people say to leave it to a higher power, it's very true. Because when you are with the right person, there is no second-guessing or feelings of lack. What I wanted more than anything was spiritual growth and an evolution of my own consciousness and I am now with the ONE man in the world that gives me all I wanted THAT I NEVER CONSCIOUSLY KNEW I WANTED BEFORE. THANK GOD the Universe did NOT attract that PARTICULAR guy that I wanted because the one I have now is A MILLION TIMES BETTER AND MORE. Believe that the Universe knows more than you do and can read ALL of your subconsious desires and manifest them in your life for you! This world is your playground. NEVER SETTLE. Hold yourself to the highest and keep on believing. If you have any other questions, PLEASE contact me. Love yourself first Lisa by taking care of you and surrounding yourself with people who make you feel good and don't make you feel like you're not enough, because you are MORE THAN ENOUGH and already have EVERYTHING YOU ALREADY NEED INSIDE YOU. Find people who make you feel good and shine their LOVE light on you, to awaken your own. Your dreams are within your grasp. Aim for something SO HIGH that it feels impossible to you. I did this unconsciously, and got everything. Start with LOVE. xoxox
Thank you Lisa! You are correct, you must believe it to see it. To the extent that you hold your belief, will be the extent to which it manifests in your reality. Meaning the longer it takes for you to focus and truly hold firm in your belief, will be the extent to how fast it comes into your reality. It also has another meaning. The way it manifests itself is also a condition of faith.
I work as both a meditation and law of attraction coach because I find that for me, meditation, in particularly grounding is key to literally "getting out of your head" and all the "crazy negative thoughts" and to manifest from a place of peace and knowingness.
If you need further guidance, please feel free to contact me for a session.
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